Chat Nightmares of 2004 - Parents Beware of Internet
So you think your kids are safe on the computer? You think your
spouse isn't having a little online cyber affair? Well we have got
some news for you We have put together a small portion of news stories
that we came across in 2004 and compiled them here just for you.
It is our firm belief that if your children or spouse are spending
more time on the Internet typing their lives away than they are
with you then you have a right to know what they are doing. When
they leave the house you usually know what they are doing right?
Leaving the house and going online are the same thing only the Internet
may very well be more dangerous, especially for kids.
Don't go away, read a couple headlines from January 2004:
Teen lured on Net
Suspect drugged, taped teen, police say
The story starts like this:
A 16-year-old Winnipeg girl was allegedly lured from her home by
a man she met on the Internet who drugged her, drove her outside
city limits, and then videotaped himself sexually assaulting her.
Apparently this girl never met this man before talking to him online.
He had lured her into meeting him then he drugged her and taped
himself sexually assaulting her. She will have problematic memories
of that moment for the rest of her life and the worst part is that
it could have been avoided.
Coach sentenced for Internet offense
This is a boys and girls basketball coach. The story goes like
The coach was sentenced in Rockingham Superior Court to nine months
in jail for luring young boys over the Internet. He pleaded guilty
to two counts of illegal use of a computer by asking minors to participate
in sexual acts over the Internet. He faces up to seven years in
This was a coach, an icon to your kids trying to lure young boys.
It took at least four students to complain before an investigation
got started. We were lucky he got caught before any damage was done.
That's not always the case though as you will soon find out.
A trained, alert parent would have noticed something was amiss.
Parents are the front line of defense against all sorts of predators
and should stay alert for the warnings signs. Nervous behavior or
attempts to hide Internet activity are signs a child is trying to
hide something. If your child becomes secretive or turns off the
computer or closes an application whenever you come into the room,
be suspicious be very suspicious.
Make sure the computer is in a place where you
can see what is going on. The bedroom is the worst possible place
for a teenager's computer. If keeping the computer on a visible
area is not an option, then there are other options I'll discuss
later. For now, lets see what February 2004 had for Internet news
CHAT ROOM SICKO
Exclusive: Net Nightmare Every Parent Fears
The story starts like this:
Little Chloe Michaels was only 11 years old when he met her. But
that didn't matter to sick Glen Parker. After months exchanging
messages in an Internet chat room he was finally going to have his
Chloe first started going into Internet chat rooms after her mother
Cathy, a teacher, bought a computer to help with her homework. Each
evening when she'd finished her schoolwork she would then log on
The chat ended like this:
After it was all over he dumped her, terrified, distraught
Of course the mother was devastated. You think mom, being a teacher,
would have been watching her 11 year old a little better. Later
in the news story:
Cathy says: "It's every parent's nightmare. The Internet is
totally banned in this house now. If parents have got the Internet
they should be standing behind their child to find out exactly what
they are looking at.
Banning the Internet completely is a little extreme
and it would be nice if parents could stand behind their child every
minute they are on the computer but that isn't always possible.
So what is a parent to do? Don't worry there are some options. Let's
see what happened in March of 2004:
Florida Man Arrested for Enticing Heartland Boy
A couple excerpts from the news story:
An interstate trip lands a Florida man behind bars after allegedly
meeting up with a 13-year-old Cape Girardeau boy for sex. Archillis
Boglosa allegedly met the boy in an online chat room.
As shocking as this story is, counselors say there are several reasons
why a child will go on-line to meet other people for sex. But, they
say the only good thing about this story the 13-year-old came back
to Cape Girardeau alive.
Wife Catches Husband Cheating With 4 Women Online
Here are some of the highlights:
Her story is not uncommon. She suspected her husband -- a truck
driver who spends days away from home -- of having an affair.
Her suspicions started when a computer entered their home.
"I think as his knowledge increased for the computer, he spent
more and more time on it," she said.
She installed computer software called Spector Pro It allows you to see everything that someone does on their computer
-- view every Web site they visit, read every chat they have with
someone. Now that was a good idea.
In no time, she said her suspicions were confirmed.
"Once I had it installed, I had information by the next morning,"
She got documents showing her husband's online chats, conversations
he thought were private.
She said these prove her husband was having an affair with at least
The information she got from spying on her husband changed her life.
She has now filed for divorce.
How he lured a girl of 12 to fly away with him
The summer holidays were upon her and she should have been looking
forward to a lazy summer. Instead:
The 12 year old was walking into an accomplished pedophile's trap.
The 32 year old man, a thickset former US marine already suspected
of molesting two girls, had met his English quarry in an internet
chat room and was flying across the Atlantic to be with her.
Over the next four days police, FBI agents and psychologists on
two continents took part in a desperate operation to track them
Even from a continent away, he had been able to exert an astonishing
hold on the child. She was besotted by him and trusted him.
That is exactly what these Internet predators do, they groom their
prey as long as they need to gain their trust, they are a patient
people. Which should give parents plenty of time to see what is
going on. The police found out from looking into her computer that
the 12 year old was chatting online for sometimes 11 hours at a
time with her predator. The computer is not an electronic babysitter.
Parents need to know what is being done on the computer.
In the previous story at least the wife got smart
and installed a computer monitoring program to monitor her husband,
more parents need to do that to keep their kids safe. I have a list
of the best of them on my web site but more on that later.
Let's check out a couple headlines from April 2004:
Parents nightmare: Man held for luring teen
A young Kerr County teen fell victim to a 24-year-old man she met
online. He is accused of driving all the way from the Austin area
to meet the young teen in Kerr County.
You always see it on TV, but you think that it's not going to happen
here, said the girls' father. Sheriffs department officials say
the girl fell victim to the man after meeting him in an online teen
chat room. Now the girl is safe. But the scenario could have ended
very differently, say officials.
You never think that it will happen to you until it's too late.
Girl, 16, returned home
Police charged a Virginia man Monday with abducting a Rocky Mount
teenage girl he met through an Internet chat room.
The girl was discovered unharmed at the man's Springfield, Va.,
Sounds like the same scenario but the parents had a couple interesting
points in this news story.
When her mother asked about the chatting and phone calls, Samantha
said she was talking to another teen from Elm City.
"Usually, I can see right through her when she lies, but this
time she got me," Michele Carroll said. "I've always known
where my kids were and what they were doing.
"She has her own computer in her room, but I never had any
reason to think she would do something stupid like this."
This is a very typical scenario for kids today.
They are chatting with anonymity and that let's them think they
can do anything or be anybody while they are online. As often happens
with children, what they do when they are not at home or when they
are chatting online will filter into their everyday lives. If a
child is lying when they are online chatting, then how long do you
think it will take before they start lying to the parents? Not long,
not long at all. Let's see what the headlines of May 2004 had to
Altoona teacher accused of having sex with teen
A man, 51, met 16-year-old in Internet chat room. He was a graphic
arts teacher that taught at the Blair County vocational-technical
high school. He has been charged with luring a South Hills teen
to meet and have sex with him after encountering the girl last year
in an Internet chat room.
Police consider the girl to be "a complete victim" and
have released her to her parents. They also asked state police to
obtain a search warrant to seize and check the contents of the teachers'
Here is a must read news story of on of the victims telling her
story, an interesting read. Here is the headline and some highlights
of the story:
Online Predators: A Victim Tells Her Story
What started as an online conversation between her and another
person she thought was another kid ended in a sexual assault.
The Internet is a world of words, connections, and conversation.
It is in this world and on a computer that a 14-year-old Fox Valley
For nine straight hours they talked through their keyboards and
computer monitors. He learned a lot about her, and even watched
her through her web cam.
"He wanted to meet me all of a sudden," she remembers.
In August of last year, she was in an Internet chat room, where
she often was. She was chatting with some friends when a stranger,
cal_night2000, said he wanted to talk, too.
Less than 24 hours after his very first hello, cal_night2000 was
on the girl's doorstop. Instead of being a 14-year-old boy, he was
a 28-year-old man.
That's a pretty scary story. The two most frightening
parts are how long they chatted together and what a short time it
took for him to be at her doorstep. They chatted for nine hours
straight! There we go again with the electronic babysitter. Within
24 hours this man had found out where she lived and was able to
be at her doorstep. Scary isn't it? It's reality though, it can
happen that fast. Let's see what kind of nightmares happened in
June of 2004:
Internet meeting leads to arrest
A 21-year-old Durham man is in Randolph County Jail facing 13 sex
crime charges, including rape, stemming from an alleged tryst arranged
via the Internet with a 12-year-old Asheboro girl at a motel in
This kind of headline is all too common but the detective makes
a very strong statement.
"The detective said the contact between the man and the girl
had been going on for several months before the meeting was arranged.
The message to parents is plain, he said.
"Keep an eye on your child. There are programs out there for
parents where you can go back and check on what your children are
doing on the Internet."
Cops: Girl lured online
Encounter on Internet leads to assault of 15-year-old, police say
A 21-year-old construction worker from Inwood was held on $30,000
bond after he was arrested last week and charged with raping a 15-year-old
girl he met in a chat room on the Internet. Police said the man
drove the girl around Lynbrook before taking her to the Merrick
train station parking lot, where he forced her to have sex with
him in his car.
That story doesn't go into much detail except
for the main point that they met in an Internet chat room. That
should send a message loud and clear to parents: the Internet is
a dangerous place for kids.
It's been proven time and again. Know what your children are doing,
know what they're doing on-line. A computer monitoring program is
about the only way to know what they are doing online at all times.
July of 2004 was no different:
Men Held For Taking Teen Girl
Two men were being held at the Franklin County Jail in Ohio on
Wednesday afternoon after being charged with transporting a 14-year-old
girl from her Pike County home to Columbus, Ohio.
Investigators later found e-mails and Internet chat room files on
the girl's computer that shed light on the relationship and planned
meeting between them, according to police.
Two charged with sex crimes against teen girl
they met online
The alleged victim in the case is a 14-year-old girl from the West
End of Monroe County.
Police claim that both men met the girl in an Internet chat room
last year when she was 13 years old.
Each man arranged to meet the girl in person and established a relationship
with her that eventually became sexual, police said.
In the previous news stories, there were a couple
very important points made that should make parents think a bit
more. "Investigators later found e-mails and Internet chat
room files on the girl's computer " and "both men met
the girl in an Internet chat room last year" The 13 year old
girl was chatting with these men for a year with the parents not
knowing? Enough said. Let's take a little gander at the events of
Georgia man admits sexually exploiting Montana
A Georgia man talked a Montana girl he met through the Internet
into disrobing before a web cam so could see her genitalia. The
man and the juvenile girl, who was 13 years, met in March 2002 on-line
through a computer game. During a chat session, the man got the
girl to again take off her shirt. When he requested the girl to
go further, she eventually showed him web cam images of her genitalia
for 10 to 15 minutes before a relative of the girl's walked into
Man Charged With Raping Girl He Met Over The
An Alabama man is behind bars, charged with raping a young Louisville
girl. Police say the man met the 12-year-old girl over the Internet,
then drove to Louisville and took her to an area motel.
When sexual predators travel to meet children they've met over the
Internet, often times, they have police detectives waiting for them
at the designated spot. But police say this time the alleged suspect
had a 12-year-old victim waiting for him.
Police say this should be a wake-up call for parents to do all they
can to prevent Internet predators from reaching their children.
The first story is a bit unusual in that the
man actually got the girl to undress for him in front of her web
cam. Do your kids have a web cam? Apparently this shows how curious
and trusting a 12-year old can be. Wouldn't you want to know just
how curious they are getting and have some control over their curiosity?
Parents can have that control. Here are a couple more headlines
from September of 2004:
Missing girl found alive, Fircrest man charged
with sex crimes, kidnap
In an upstairs bedroom, the 14-year-old girl curled
in a fetal position, wearing nothing but a plaid skirt. In another
bedroom draped in black plastic, officers found a bench, chains,
sex toys and a video camera.
Court documents allege Sadler picked up the girl in Clark County
after meeting her in an Internet chat room.
Physician charged with sexual assault
A 31-year-old doctor faces a felony sexual assault
charge involving a relationship with a 14-year-old Warwick girl
he met in an Internet chat room.
Police say the doctor arranged his first meeting with the girl at
the Warwick Public Library. Police said a consensual sexual relationship
began in early September last year and continued for several months.
Do you still think kids are safe on the Internet?
You can't trust doctors or teachers or the person next door. These
headlines all start sounding the same after awhile. That's because
the bottom line is that they are. They all stem from an Internet
meeting between a child and an adult and none of them have a very
happy ending. Here some more from October 2004:
Man used Internet to lure girl, 14
A 32-year-old man moved from New York to New Holstein for a relationship
with a 14-year-old girl he met on the Internet. He was arrested
last week after he went to New Holstein High School, applied for
a job and asked permission to take the girl to the homecoming dance.
British Man Charged With Assault
The 36-year-old man met his alleged victim, a 15-year-old Austin
girl, through an Internet chat room in which they communicated for
two and a half years.
Austin Police alleges the man flew to the U.S. and drove from Denver
to Austin in a rental car in July.
He allegedly met his chat room victim at a park in her southwest
Austin neighborhood and sexually assaulted her in the rental car.
Court papers say there were several assaults during his visit.
At the attorney general's office, they tout 53 undercover arrests
in the last year and half.
"Those could have been 53 real victims," they said.
But they also urge parents to check their kids' online activity.
"What types of information are the exchanging? Are they talking
about music and movies or are they exchanging personal information
about where they actually live, or where they actually go to school?"
In the Austin sexual assault case, police say the 15-year-old girl
had been Internet chatting with the suspect since she was 12.
These stories show the persistence of these online
predators. The first one actually moved and applied for a job to
be with his victim. The second one, talk about persistence, chatted
for two and a half years before actually flying to the U.S. to meet
his victim. They need to be stopped. There's more, let's see what
happened in November 2004:
Online Predator Issues Warning
A man who is currently serving a six-year term for molesting a
teenager he met over the Internet issued a warning for anyone whose
child spends time on the Internet, saying there are plenty of others
still out there who are just like him.
"I was taking advantage of the fact that I was older and, you
could say, wiser if you want," he said. "I took a confusing
time in a young girl's life and made it even more confusing and
Eventually, he traveled to Metro Atlanta where his relationship
with the teenager got physical. It ended when police found out.
"This is a dangerous thing, they're stealing the innocence
of children and parents need to know this. They need to get current
with what's going on the computer," said Peachtree City Police
I think that says enough. These predators are
sick and your children just can't be trusted on the Internet alone
or unmonitored. Now let's see what happened in December 2004:
Doctor admits sex with underage girl
'Last Fling' PC Accused of Sex Attacks
Man lures girl to car park via chat room
Those are only some of the headlines from December. Looks about
the same as any other month, there was a Doctor, a Police Constable
and an ordinary man. It doesn't matter what month it is, or what
the occupation, or what part of the world, these people are out
there and they are looking for unsuspecting innocent children to
groom through an Internet chat room. Don't let that child be yours.
The only other thing most of these stories have in common is the
fact that they are news stories and that means that the predators
were caught. What about the ones out there that weren't caught?
How many missing children are there in the world? Would you want
to read about your child in the news or would you want to find out
what they are doing beforehand? The only way to know exactly what
your children are doing while they are on the Internet is to get
an Internet monitoring program. You have a right to know what they are doing.
You can find out more about computer
monitoring programs here. Don't let your child become a news